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tobi's avatar

“For context, it’s not unusual for the landlord and I to speak—we have a rapport from being former flag football teammates”

first, i like that this jumps off as a diary and not an article.

the fact that you linked an entry of where you’ve discussed being teammates with this landlord is telling of how much documenting you do on here. Well done, namesake.

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Ese Walter's avatar

Stubborn woman here feeling very seen…

Totally enjoyed reading this

Feels great to find a Naija writer girl on here… ❤️

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Oluwatobiloba's avatar

I'm glad you found it useful, thanks for reading.

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tobi's avatar

“It might be tougher for those in relationships”

i’m curious, what you mean here.

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Oluwatobiloba's avatar

Thanks Tobi, I enjoy reading your comments. Writing it did feel like writing in a diary.

To your question the answer is layered but, I’ll try to summarise.

Women in relationships especially the married ones are often more “tolerant”, if they even recognise the behaviour for what it is in the first place.

If there’s no history of being outspoken in the relationship, it’s not wise to suddenly switch it up if she still wants to be married to the man.

An unmarried, self aware woman like me is not so tolerant of these things.

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tobi's avatar

oh i see. but even if one wasn’t outspoken before they can still decide to switch. It just depends on delivery.

at least, in my case, i’d like to think i’m as open as the hole in a tyre, but i can be the complete opposite when i realize the other party’s tone is very derogatory.

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Oluwatobiloba's avatar

Yup. That’s where using wisdom comes in.

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